Who doesn't want an open, sociable, always smiling child who can feel at home even when moms and dads aren't around? A friendly child is more easily adaptable, and reacts positively in new situations, or when in contact with strangers. But what do you do when he is too friendly with strangers, and is not aware of the possible dangers he is exposed to?
How do we teach the little one that not all strangers are friendly?
The basis of any open relationship is communication. And patience plays an essential role in the relationship with your child. This is exactly what you have to do with the little one, to talk, to find the way to explain that Although it is good to be open to everyone, it must remain cautious around strangers. Children should also be exposed to less pleasant information, they must learn that when they approach a stranger they cannot know their intentions or thoughts and that, unfortunately, there are also bad people, with hidden intentions or ill wishes. For this reason, they must be cautious.
Another aspect that is not neglected is to explain to the child the concept of "unknown". You do not want to be put in the situation that the little one does not talk to the new teacher or the dentist at the first visit to the medical office. For a small child a stranger should be any person you or a known person you do not know, a person who directly addresses and presents himself. The moment you or someone close to him makes contact with a person, that person is no longer a stranger. It should also be learned that there are unknown "good" people who can help them in a time of difficulty (if it is lost to you to know that they can ask the help of a guard, a policeman or an adult who offers to help him find you).
Be careful, however, it is not recommended to prohibit them from talking to strangers, you will risk having a hostile attitude when coming into contact with friends you have not met before or with the new educator. The child can thus become introverted and antisocial, and may even face difficulties in making friends of his age. After all, how do people get to know you if you never talk to them?
What should the child learn? How can you avoid the possible dangers, even when you are not near him?
- Teach him to be polite, but accept his own starting date with a new person and not force him to hug or kiss her if he doesn't want to.
- Recommend that when he is not with you or a known adult person, stay in the group, surrounded by several children, if he goes or returns from school for example, to go with other children or to go keep close to other parents with children.
- Remind him that it is more prudent to keep a distance from a car that stops near him and shelters an adult who insists on talking to him, or urges him to get in his car, tell him that it is okay to step up and to remove and even need to ask the help of a parent on the street.
- Tell him that he should refuse any proposal from an unknown person, whether it is to give him a candy, that an adult should not stop a child on the street and ask for various things and that the it would be better to keep the distance.
- Make sure you always have a good word and advice for him, that it is desirable that there are no secrets between you, especially if another adult teaches him to hide something from you. Give him the free hand that in the situation where he feels insecure to scream as hard as he can and to escape from danger.
As the child is small and always in our company, things are simpler and we have the knowledge necessary to prevent unpleasant situations or to manage them when it happens. It is important to provide the child with these "weapons", in order to be able to handle even when he is alone, to give him complete information and not to present only the beautiful part of things, but adapted to his age and understanding ability. After all, even when we're not around them, it's all our responsibility, right?
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