Your child made a mess! A slap on the face or a butt or an insult will not achieve the purpose you are aiming for: to understand that he has been wrong and that he must never repeat that action. But what is the solution?
Your acts of anger and violence will only cause the child to be ashamed, to become insecure about it and - at most - to be afraid of you, but will not understand why it was bad or inappropriate.
Here are some steps that you will be able to correct the inappropriate behavior of the child by helping him to understand the implications of his rudeness and why it is not good to do them anymore.
Pay attention to how you react!
Any parent is out of wires, but if you start to get angry and especially yell, the child will be more careful in how you behave than in what you tell him, and what he will retain will be just your aggressive behavior. .
Be natural (pay attention to grimaces and gestures) and talk to him about what happened - you will capture his attention to what you say and the child will be willing to listen to you.
Critical mistake, not the baby!
Many parents attribute to the child all kinds of insults that can frustrate and turn into trauma. For example, if he just broke a glass and told him it's not good what he did, and he breaks one more, some parents make the child unkind, which is a big mistake, because it will diminish self-confidence. of the child.
Criticism and small quarrels should be limited to the rudeness he has made and not to the child itself.
Wait for the right time!
When children are sick, they often start to cry and become agitated. Do not try to have a discussion with him in those moments, because you will overwhelm him and he will not listen to you anyway. Wait for him to stop crying and calm down a little, then you can take him to a discussion about his deed.
Focus on emotions and feelings!
Empathize with your child; show him understanding and explain to him that you are sometimes wrong, and the repercussions are not pleasant, that is why you do not repeat that mistake. Give him personal examples and link them to the disease he made.
He doesn't even feel comfortable with the mistakes he makes, so it's important not to make him feel even worse.
Apply punishment to them!
The punishment of the child is a very good tool in his discipline and can have the expected effect. However, there are some rules about it: to be administered lawfully (even to deserve it) and not to be physically.
It is best to punish him by forbidding him temporary access to what he likes to do most: use a game, look at drawings, stay at a computer. When applying, make sure he understands why he receives this punishment and what purpose it has, so as not to focus his attention on the ban itself.
The punishment aims both to make the awareness that what he has done is wrong, but especially to understand why he is wrong and helps to ensure positive behavior.
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